You know, I've never said anything, but as I sit here thinking tonight I realize I should make this clear. I never really acknowledge the comments I receive here on the blog, but I read all of them. Many of you have been unkind, unflattering, or even harsh toward The New Guy. Common sense might dictate you not say such things because he reads this and thus reads what you say about him. Reason may dictate that you not judge, because you don't know him or both sides of the story. Conscience might dictate "do unto others as you would have them do unto you", or otherwise urge you to fairness and kindness. However, lacking those, allow me to dictate by means of this reminder: The New Guy that you speak of is my boyfriend, and I love him very much. Lacking respect for him, the very least you can do is have respect for me and temper your comments regarding him, or, as they say, say nothing at all.
Hello there. I hope that I have behaved myself.
I have never written anything on this blog assuming the "new" guy would read it. I write my honest opinions and feelings. I know you don't agree with them, I don't expect you to. However, I do like to make you think. If nothing else, I am good at that. I suspect that you don't give my comments the thought that they require though. That's fine with me though. At least I know that I've given my honest opinion of how I see things (however skewed you think it may be).
As for you saying that I don't know both sides of the story, you have told me quite a few things, the rest I have read in the blog. However, I still may not have ALL the facts, but I believe I am basing my opinions on a fair amount of them.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"...uh, right. Maybe YOU should also consider those words you're so proud to write...
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" exactly why we're ignoring you. It'd be great if you do the same unto us.
S'funny Joe
I don't remember any of my teachers at school or university ever having to be aggressive, pompous, sanctimonious or snide in order to make me think...
Perhaps you should consider that?
Perhaps you should blow me. :)
I appreciate you reading the comments, even though you don't always know where they're coming from (surely you figure mine out at least half the time, no?). I'm not a judgemental person, and I'm certainly as impartial as anyone who reads this blog (or comments in it). So maybe I can get away with saying this....
I'm not going to pretend that everything is perfect. In fact, life isn't perfect. Things don't turn out the way we intend. We even do things, not intending to make life worse for ourselves, but that turn out that way. People just aren't perfect.
But you're trying. That's good. That's better than being lazy, uncaring, even rude. Maybe it's not all perfect, but, at least at the moment, it looks like it's as good as you can make it with what you have. And I think that's what matters. I hope it keeps getting better.
It's your life. Live it your way. And as long as you're doing your best to respect others' ability to do the same, the people who don't like it can go hang themselves in their own misery (or envy, or pity, or whatever it might be).
Hugs to you, ^5's to TNG, and waves to this kids that maybe someday I can meet... ;)
I think it is safe to say TNG's comments to commenters might give one a hint that he reads your blog. I sometimes think you put in messages to him in your writings. Not exactly subliminal. You stir the hornets' nest of a social more...Real men don't do housework, that is a woman's job. Then, you get lots of comments and anger on that one. Why? Because people feel strongly about it. The comments TNG has read are helping to change TNG for the better. I have read every entry and comment in your blog, and no one said throw the bastard out. You just wrote of watershed events in that regard. I myself wrote some pretty harsh things, but tried to make them factual. I am also really hypocritical. For the first 6 or 7 years of my marriage I never would do dishes because that was "women-work". I changed over time and now have a different opinion on that. I still don't do laundry. Aren't I awlful. I am. I do want TNG to be better than I am, but more than that, I would like to see your plight eased as you are really burning the candle at both ends. To that end, TNG you have to take it on the chin sometimes, and I hope you take it as constructive criticism.